Every now and then, I run my maiden name through a myspace search because I have a lot of relatives that I don’t know very well, so I like to see if they started a page. So today, I typed it in, and up popped this woman who I’d never seen before … but the sex said “male”. I clicked on it, and long story short, it is my father. All of his pictures are of him dressed as a woman.
At first, I laughed, then I cried, and now I’m not sure what to do. My dad and I aren’t very close and haven’t been since I was in middle school. I got married in May; he came to my wedding but was pretty distant … he’s never been rude … he’s just not very communicative and is hard to get a hold of.
I love my dad, even though he hasn’t always been there for me. He looks SO HAPPY in those pictures of him as a woman, and I love it. I’m just afraid that if I somehow confront him about it, that he’ll be angry or embarrassed. I look at talking to him about it as a possible tool for us to become closer … I fear that he distances himself because he thinks I’ll be judgemental or disgusted, but that’s so far from the truth. I had a strong reaction at first because I had suspected something like this for a while, but forgot about it. Then to have it pop up in my face unexpectedly was a shock!
Anyway … the way I see it, I can either befriend him on myspace along with a short note saying I love him, totally support him … or not bring it up … I want to be closer to my dad but I don’t want to risk him being upset. He’s not the type to be angry, but he is pretty defensive. Can I get some suggestions please? Thanks!
Like you said, he put OUR last name on myspace … nothing about his profile is private … part of me thinks he WANTS to be found, but I hope that’s not assuming too much. But anyone could find him with just the last name.